The seeds of this post were sown when I read On Balance, Blogging and Turning Two by Kate at Centsational Girl. This was a real eye-opener for me. She talked about what a typical day in her life is like and how she manages her time and juggles the various ‘hats’ that she wears. It was heartening for me to see that she lets a lot of things ‘go’ as a lower priority, to the point of not even doing them sometimes. (I’m talking about things like keeping a spotless, tidy house.) It was also really enlightening to see what her work-from-home schedule and strategies are. As a new-kid-on-the-blog-block I am always researching and trying to learn how the big guns do it. There is always something to learn from the experience of others. I would love to have Kate’s blogging success and it was so encouraging to see that we’re all just real people, living real lives, with real imperfections. It’s easy to see the (perfect) public face of someone and start to feel inadequate about your own imperfect life. I started to think, maybe, just maybe, I’m not doing so bad after all.
I’m Not Perfect, Neither are the Experts.
I’d love to have a spotless house and perfect children. But who really has that? And if they do, at what cost? Sure, I lose my rag at my kids every now and then, but I tell them every day that I love them and I provide for their tangible needs as well as their emotional and spiritual well-being as best as I can. And by ‘I’ I mean ‘my husband and I’– his contribution to our family is unsung and I couldn’t in good conscience leave him out of this post. It helped me on a deep level to find out that someone I admire and aspire to has the same struggles, and frankly, ISN’T PERFECT.
It can be hard to remember sometimes that the pros make it all look easy, because that’s part of their skill. We all put our best face forward to the world but that doesn’t mean everything you see is the whole truth. I’m sure if you talk to anyone at the top of their field, they’ll be able to give you a list of things they’re working on trying to do better.
We are all evolving. We all have struggles. NO ONE is perfect.
How Can You Find Your Balance When You Feel Like a Chicken with your Head Cut Off?
Here are five tips to try when you start to feel like you’re falling behind:
- Don’t compare yourself.
I know this easier said than done, but the person who you’re comparing to might have resources that you don’t know about (like a team of hired help). There are a million reasons why they appear to be doing better than you. The truth is, YOU might be doing better than them in some areas of life! We all have our strengths and weaknesses.
- Make a To-Do list and refer to it several times a day.
Yes, you heard me right. I said refer to it several times a day. This might seem excessive, but believe me, I have learned that when you have a daily list and refer to it frequently, every time you mark something as completed, it gives you energy and motivation to move to your next task. It’s amazing how much more I get done in a day since I’ve added this simple habit into my life.
- Prioritise your tasks.
I break my to-do list into three sections: TODAY, THIS WEEK and SOON. In the Today list- make sure to only have things that absolutely must be done today or the sky will fall down on your head. I am still working on this one. I sometimes find that I slip and put things on there that I’d like to get done, but not necessarily need to get done. Be ruthless!
- Make your needs known and ask for help.
Your friends and family don’t know what you’re working on or trying to accomplish if you don’t communicate with them. Share you to-do list at the beginning of the week so you can plan together. You’ll save yourself a lot of heartache and prevent disagreements if everyone knows what each others’ goals and priorities are. I can’t tell you the number of times that Hubs and I have butted heads because we were working against each other but didn’t know it. Delegate where you can. Get your kids to help, hire a cleaning lady etc.
- Let it go.
This is probably the hardest for many of us. Understand that you’re just one person. You can’t do everything, and if you do, you can’t do it well. Decide what the most important things are and stick to them. When you achieve them, congratulate yourself! Don’t berate yourself for what you didn’t accomplish. All of the most successful people out there know this trick. They prioritise, complete and move on. They will all tell you that when push comes to shove, some things get left by the wayside. It’s OK!
I hope you find these tips useful.
Remember that your life is a work in progress. Together we’ll get there! 🙂
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